Why are we still pulling daisy petals?

Ok so my blogger wasn't coming up fast enough... ladies stop giving yourself the title of "the one" that's God's job and He tells your man. You figure out if he's the one for you. Don't make you the one for him. Be you! That's my first rant

The main thing that brought me here is the thought about the "he loves me, he loves me not" why are we still pulling daisy petals? As women we have to stop trying to figure it out and focus on ourselves when a new potential beau comes around.

Fact: Guys like more than one female at a time. I know it's hard to believe, but a guy can think you are the jelly on his whole-wheat bread and still think another lady is peanut butter. Does that mean you are less of a catch? NO! It just means that we need to stop trying to over-incubate our eggs so that they'll hatch. Sure sometimes it works and we get some lame egg... but really... who wants a preemie omelet? One thing that a friend of mine has been coaching me to do is to like more than one guy at a time. Sounds simple right? Not so easy. I've conditioned myself to stick with the jelly. Then when the peanut butter comes around I'm already involved with the jelly and unfortunately PB & J is not always the solution. If you eat Jelly long enough you will start to love it and feel like it's the only thing for you. You really don't know. Don't have a whole squad, but ladies... have a starting line-up. Don't use them! Respect them, treat them like you would want to be treated. At the end of the season there'll be an MVP. He'll make his presence known. Let him do the work, you give him the award ;)

STAY busy. Not too busy, but live your life. Don't sit tapping your foot with open arms waiting for your next FB message, tweet or text. MOVE! Go on about your life. Get one if you don't have one. *shrug* nothing wrong with that. Just don't always be available. Now grant it, there will be those guys or times when you are available to talk... do it. If you're a tweeter/texter, be you... just be aware that if you are ALWAYS available, he'll recognize that and he can use that to his advantage should he so choose. Be balanced. Get giddy, have your long conversations/tweetersations/textersations and take a chill pill. Regroup

Don't dis your tweeps Make sure that you keep in contact with those people who have always been there for you. Don't make anyone the center of your world other than God. Make sure you keep your girls night out (or in) and your buddy time with your group of friends. Invite him along to the group activities to make sure he gets along with everyone and observe him. Go out with his peeps too.

Don't dis the dude to protect yourself smh this is so important it's stupid. Don't read so many books, watch so many episodes of Oprah and have so many girl-chats that you dis any guy. Whether you are interested in him or not. He's still a man and respect him, otherwise don't be mad when it happens to you. Be careful, but don't let your past dictate how you treat someone. You may not be a gold digger, but you will seem like and attention-starved brat. You will also seem so broken that a dude will not know what to do with you.

Never ever emasculate a man. Somehow there is something in us that disses guys. Not sure if we are over-confident or we're stuck in junior high-school flirting. This is not cool. Whatsoever. You can joke with a guy about some things that you know he'd be comfortable with... but chillax. Make sure a man knows he's a man in your eyes. No matter how strong a man is, don't play him to make him feel less of a man. What sense does that make? You may be angry, but emasculation doesn't solve a thing. It pushes a man away. hmph. He's not a dog to be trained. He's a man with feelings and an ego. Break the curse of Willie Lynch.

Get your priorities straight clean up your house. Keep your hair in order. Wear nice clothes. Keep a good attitude. Deal with your past! Recognize patterns that you have. Put them in check if you realize there's a problem. GOD FIRST... I promise you God first. Don't expect a man to have God high on his priority list if you and God are on-again-off-again.






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