Ode to my sidekick, oh kick of side

If I didn't have my sidekick I would never know what time it is
If I didn't have my sidekick I wouldn't be able to get on the internet all day
Without the kick on my side I would only know about 4 phone numbers
Without the kick on my side I wouldn't be able to tweet at 1am when I should be sleep
Should my kick not be at my side I wouldn't have an alarm when I went out of town
Should my kick not be at my side I wouldn't have a calculator just waiting for me
Without my kickside I would not be able to be located
Without my kickside people wouldn't be offended if I were busy
Should the kick be to the front and not the side (lol) I wouldn't be able to speak in silence
Should the kick be to the front and not the side (lmbo) = life without creating witty acronyms
Without my slide of the side of kick I wouldn't be able to communicate with you
I wouldn't be able to take notes of the sermon when I don't have a pen and paper
I wouldn't laugh in the middle of silence and have people wonder what's so funny. :) :)
Ah side of kick... you may be booted for a curve or the Apple of my i... but you've done me well.

(lmbo!!!!!!!)

Day 2: Get Right Eat Right

So today is going smoothly. I actually am tired of eating. Like... I roll my eyes... time to eat again.. :(

It's very filling. I made up for yesterday's mistakes. Tonight I will not fail!

Breakfast. Egg-white and spinach scramble. turkey sausage
Snack #1. Raw (softened in hot water) broccoli. cheese stick. turkey lunch meat
Lunch. Two medium-sized ground turkey and spinach wraps. Whole wheat wrap.
Snack #2. Banana. half a piece of bread with turkey meat. nuts and craisins.
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Dinner to come... wraps are on the menu. Unless I fix something else. Highly unlikely.

Feelin good feeling great. TODAY IS GYM DAY!! Praises be. I'm excited and I want to leave now to go... but I can't. :(

Husbandmony

Testimony...

Yesterday a woman gave a beautiful testimony of how great of a man her husband is. It was so touching. Made a lady think that God's got it... eventually I want to have that testimony. Instead of sitting there squirming during a testimony like that knowing that I don't feel that way about my own husband. Hmm... Yep... God's got it. How many people can give a husbandmony or a boyfriendmony now? Still waiting to find something to thank God for in that man? hmm... how often do we show the men we love we appreciate them? *shrug*

Why are we still pulling daisy petals?

Ok so my blogger wasn't coming up fast enough... ladies stop giving yourself the title of "the one" that's God's job and He tells your man. You figure out if he's the one for you. Don't make you the one for him. Be you! That's my first rant

The main thing that brought me here is the thought about the "he loves me, he loves me not" why are we still pulling daisy petals? As women we have to stop trying to figure it out and focus on ourselves when a new potential beau comes around.

Fact: Guys like more than one female at a time. I know it's hard to believe, but a guy can think you are the jelly on his whole-wheat bread and still think another lady is peanut butter. Does that mean you are less of a catch? NO! It just means that we need to stop trying to over-incubate our eggs so that they'll hatch. Sure sometimes it works and we get some lame egg... but really... who wants a preemie omelet? One thing that a friend of mine has been coaching me to do is to like more than one guy at a time. Sounds simple right? Not so easy. I've conditioned myself to stick with the jelly. Then when the peanut butter comes around I'm already involved with the jelly and unfortunately PB & J is not always the solution. If you eat Jelly long enough you will start to love it and feel like it's the only thing for you. You really don't know. Don't have a whole squad, but ladies... have a starting line-up. Don't use them! Respect them, treat them like you would want to be treated. At the end of the season there'll be an MVP. He'll make his presence known. Let him do the work, you give him the award ;)

STAY busy. Not too busy, but live your life. Don't sit tapping your foot with open arms waiting for your next FB message, tweet or text. MOVE! Go on about your life. Get one if you don't have one. *shrug* nothing wrong with that. Just don't always be available. Now grant it, there will be those guys or times when you are available to talk... do it. If you're a tweeter/texter, be you... just be aware that if you are ALWAYS available, he'll recognize that and he can use that to his advantage should he so choose. Be balanced. Get giddy, have your long conversations/tweetersations/textersations and take a chill pill. Regroup

Don't dis your tweeps Make sure that you keep in contact with those people who have always been there for you. Don't make anyone the center of your world other than God. Make sure you keep your girls night out (or in) and your buddy time with your group of friends. Invite him along to the group activities to make sure he gets along with everyone and observe him. Go out with his peeps too.

Don't dis the dude to protect yourself smh this is so important it's stupid. Don't read so many books, watch so many episodes of Oprah and have so many girl-chats that you dis any guy. Whether you are interested in him or not. He's still a man and respect him, otherwise don't be mad when it happens to you. Be careful, but don't let your past dictate how you treat someone. You may not be a gold digger, but you will seem like and attention-starved brat. You will also seem so broken that a dude will not know what to do with you.

Never ever emasculate a man. Somehow there is something in us that disses guys. Not sure if we are over-confident or we're stuck in junior high-school flirting. This is not cool. Whatsoever. You can joke with a guy about some things that you know he'd be comfortable with... but chillax. Make sure a man knows he's a man in your eyes. No matter how strong a man is, don't play him to make him feel less of a man. What sense does that make? You may be angry, but emasculation doesn't solve a thing. It pushes a man away. hmph. He's not a dog to be trained. He's a man with feelings and an ego. Break the curse of Willie Lynch.

Get your priorities straight clean up your house. Keep your hair in order. Wear nice clothes. Keep a good attitude. Deal with your past! Recognize patterns that you have. Put them in check if you realize there's a problem. GOD FIRST... I promise you God first. Don't expect a man to have God high on his priority list if you and God are on-again-off-again.






MOST IMPORTANTLY...

Day 1: Get Right Eat Right

So today I am serious about my eating. I LOVE exercise and I love eating... but I love my body more than both... and exercising more than food... sooooo therefore my eating has to get under control. Now I don't eat like EVERYTHING on this planet. I do sensible things. I generally don't have any snacks in the house so I don't walk around eating Doritos all day. Which can be a catch-22 because if I don't have snacks and I feel "snacky" I leave and go to Sonic... Sonic is of the devil. lol. jp.The solution? Healthy snacks. :)

Last night I prepared baggies with my snacks - meals 2 and 4 and this morning I prepared my breakfast and lunch - meals 1 and 3. Because it's Wednesday I will throw things off a little bit and my last snack meal will become a meal 5 and my dinner meal will become meal 4. (Wednesdays they serve food at church. I'm there from around 5-8)

So day 1 meal 1. I FEEL GREAT! Even though I didn't get to do my morning run :'( because I woke up late. I feel fabulous. Something about eating healthy does something for the mind and body. Mentally I feel good because I ate properly. Physically I don't feel heaviness for no reason. Love it. Sad I didn't run... perhaps it's best because my foot isn't healed yet.

Anywho that's my blog for now. Stay tuned. ;)

... so day one went well. The only thing that kinda threw it off is that at church they didn't have a well-balanced meal and I was late getting there. I have to stick with my meals. Anywho... that made me ultra hungry in the evening. I tried the almond/craisin mix... didn't help. Ended up eating a sandwich... *sigh* today will be better. Need to get more healthy snacks and options. Spice it up!

Chapter 10 Act Like a Lady~Think Like A Man

This chapter has of course led to thinking. This book is full of tips that most women know. For me it solidified some things. Partially due to where my life is now and looking back at how asking these questions and being sincerely serious would have made a HUGE difference. Mercy!

One thing as women is that we have to first assess where we are trying to go? Are we interested in a dude because he's cute and we just want to "be" with him? Do we see long-term goals? Do we want to just go with the flow and hope that we end up on the top of things? If we really haven't thought about anything, or past next week or next month, how can we really expect a man to do that? We have to be what we expect in life. If we want a man who has goals in life and is reaching for them... do we have goals? are we reaching for them? or are we just getting by until we get that engagement ring?

If we aren't in a position to have positive outlook on relationships we aren't ready to be in one. The flags that come up are there for a reason. Sure some of them may be based off of past relationships and from pain that we never dealt with, but we need to be able to decipher the source. If there are issues in our past relationships that we haven't dealt with, we HAVE to deal with them because it is COMPLETELY unfair to bring another man into our lives with the hopes that they will somehow be better than the last one. We aren't complete because we still have a hole from what they did or did not do.

There are five questions that Steve mentions a woman needs to ask a man. These are all questions that we have heard and have asked before. One thing that makes these questions hard to ask is because we already see the white picket fences before we have gone on the second date so we end up afraid. Anywho... here are the questions and I will lend a quote from each.

these can be asked before the first date...
What are your short-term goals?
"For instance, if he says his dream is to be a producer, but he's not doing anything in the field to actually become one-- he's not interning or working for a film company... he hasn't worked for four months and has no prospects of a job in the field he says he's interested in-- then you know he has a plan. And if he doesn't have a plan he's not going to achieve his short-term goal--or he's just talking out of his behind."

What are your long-term goals?
"Trust me on this: a man who really has a vision for where he wants to see himself in ten years has looked for his future and seriously considered what it'll take for him to get there. It means he has foresight, and he's plotting out the steps to his future."

after a while...
What are your views on relationships?
"Let me be direct: if you meet a man who doesn't have a relationship with God, he doesn't go to church and has no intention of ever going, and he has no belief system e can point to as a guiding force in his life, then it's a problem. After all, what moral barometer does he answer to if not to God? What's going to make him even consider being loyal to you?"

What do you think about me?
"...every man will answer this question the same exact way: "I think you're great, I think you'd make a great mom, you're fun, kind, you're really beautiful, you turn me on, you're energetic, outgoing, a hard worker, very smart. I think you're the kind of woman I could see myself with," all of that generic stuff we know you want to hear. Still, this isn't the answer you should be looking for."

How do you feel about me?
"The I think you're cool answer isn't going to cut it here, ladies. And if, you've asked the question and probed deeper, you realize his feelings for you don't run very deep-- that's he's just not there--then you need to not be there, too. Pump the brakes until you start hearing and feeling from him the things that you think are important to hear and feel from a man with whom you are willing to forge a relationship."


Of course the book goes into depth more so with these questions. If you don't get the right answer to one of these questions and a flag arises... don't ignore it. One thing I've realized with the way this book is done is that it is not just to give you a play-by-play about dudes, but it's there also to get you to look at where you are. I recommend it completely. It's a great read. It's like having your best guy-friend write a book and you can refer to it at any time.

ALWAYS get the Performance Service Plan

So God is amazing... and it's the little things.

I went to Congress this weekend and it was great!! Although I was worn out it was a great experience and I love to see young people grow spiritually. God is Amazing :)

Anywho... while at a basketball I dropped my camera, just simply dropped that mug. I turned it on to take a picture of something and low and behold my camera was broken!! Surprising I didn't fuss or anything. Simply nothing I could do. I did feel sick about it a $300 camera down the drain. So I went through the rest of the weekend taking pictures and hoping that they came out ok... which they did for the most part.

So yesterday I was looking up my Performance Service Plan and talked with a friend that works at Best Buy... the damages are covered. Like... I walked into Best Buy and told the full truth about ME dropping MY camera, and all I had to do was sign some paperwork and they are repairing and/or replacing my camera. All gravy... except Alumni is this weekend... but PRAISES... the manager says for me to just buy a camera of equal or lesser value and once everything is in order they will either repair or replace my camera and I can bring my rented camera back. ;)

So I now have a new Sony CyberShot camera and I'm pleased. Although I am upset because it's a different battery and memory card AGAIN! (and the technician let me keep my old Nikon battery... but I wasn't pleased with Nikon's performance) Anywho... new camera.

ALWAYS GET THE PSP when you get something that you wouldn't be willing to completely replace the very next day. You never know what's going to happen. That little $40 saved me $260. :)

Random thought: digital cameras and facebook have ultra potential to feed our vanity...